Mother’s Day. Dear Mum. Thank you and I’m sorry.

Today is Mother’s Day here in the UK. There are many of us going through Mother’s Day, today, without our mums. The loss of my mother has impacted my life, the way I view things, and how I parent. For those of you mothering on Mother’s Day, with the pain of loss, be it an […]

READ MORE

Those earrings…

Those earrings. Given to me by my parents when I was the same age as her. Made from a piece of jewellery my mother had broken up and made into a first pair of “good earrings” for me. Real stones. Diamonds and rubies. Worn for special occasions. Treasured as “proper jewellery”. Kept by me, hidden […]

READ MORE

I’m still here. To my daughter on this big day…

To my daughter. Today is a big day. It’s a big day for you and a big day for us, and me. You are going off on a new adventure. Growing up. I’m sure it was only yesterday I dropped you off for your first day at nursery school and cried my heart out as […]

READ MORE

Find your tribe…

Find your tribe, and if you can’t find one, start one… Parenting and motherhood can be a lonely place. It isn’t meant to be but for a lot of women, signing up to the motherhood club can land you in a place where you find your circumstances make you feel very isolated and frustrated. Motherhood […]

READ MORE

And just like that…

 Just like that, your kids grow up. One minute you are changing their nappies and worrying that they will never be potty trained and the next minute you are dealing with sending them off to secondary school, letting them spread their wings and go off without you and face the world with less of your […]

READ MORE

If you are young enough that I could have given birth to you…

Then you probably need to take my advice. Yees, you. You’re young enough that I actually could have given birth to you. When you were in nappies, I was already changing them. When you were at school I was taking kids to school. When you were at university I’d already had a baby.  You’ve got […]

READ MORE

Kindness is key for new mums

Lack of sleep and ‘me’ time, new responsibilities, reduced self-confidence and the battle to lose baby weight are among the hardest things of being a new mum Over half of new mums expect others to show kindness with one in ten revealing it’s the most important personality trait Despite one third of new mums experiencing […]

READ MORE

I do not need to be reminded to grieve…

Grief is a strange thing, and it’s very much a personal thing. One person’s grief is not the same as another persons. I know grief. I know it well. I have loved and lost. I have been slapped in the face, personally and bruisingly hard by grief. A fair bit of my life has been […]

READ MORE