This seems like a funny post to write at Christmas time, when in theory the season should be all about joy, love and family but sometimes life isn’t picture perfect like it is on Christmas cards or in the movies.
Sometimes we have family members who need extra care and input, which can be challenging for everyone. Caring for a loved one, whilst an important and vital role, can put a lot of strain on the person providing the care. I happen to have several friends who care for family members full time, and I know how hard things can be for them and their families, both emotionally and physically. You want to give the best to your family and the people you are caring for, but it can be a round the clock, no break reality, and it is that for many families and carers.
It can be hard to admit that you need to ask for that extra help, and then to try and find respite care that will be a good fit for the person who needs it, and to have peace of mind knowing that your loved one is getting the best input possible whilst you get a much needed break for yourself. It’s vital if you are going to be someone’s carer that you are also looked after yourself and get time to maintain yourself, other family relationships and even manage basic things in your life that can be neglected when you are devoted to looking after someone who can no longer support themselves.
There are so many things to think about and to consider, when looking for outside support to help with care and it can be a daunting task, when faced. Finding somewhere that is appropriate, safe, caring, with high standards of care, professionals who are trained and capable, but also friendly and caring, can be challenging. It’s not an easy task. I know from conversations I have had with friends who are carers that they feel guilty, that they have had to ask for help with care and to seek respite care. It’s hard to admit that you do need help but in the end it can be very beneficial for your loved one, who can have a nice break in a place set up to provide them with excellent care and support and you can have peace of mind knowing they are safe and cared for whilst you get some much needed time to relax and take care of yourself. Providing the best care for someone is important, but the person doing the caring also needs to make sure they are looked after, too. Using a respite care guide to provide you with information can be helpful.
It’s not something everyone thinks about, especially if they aren’t in the position of being a carer, to a loved one with medical needs or who needs full time care, but there are many people out there who do have to face this. It’s not easy but it is possible to get the help and support needed, to help you, your family, and your loved one, in the best way.
Have you ever had to seek respite care for a loved one? It’s always good to hear from those who have experienced this, to share what you have learned, to help those who may be thinking about taking that step…
*this is a collaborative post*